He Denies Cheating After I Found a Deleted Text Message - Tips and Insights That Might Help.

I recently received correspondence from a wife who found a racy and inappropriate email (from another woman) on the deleted list of her husband's text messages. Of course, she confronted her husband about this and he insisted that the text was a wrong number and that he had deleted it because it simply did not belong to him. The wife did not believe him. His reaction did not seem genuine and the text had details in it that hit too close to home. The wife was not sure how to proceed. She was very suspicious now but she knew that the husband was going to be on high alert and was of course going to be more careful. In the following article, I'll outline some of the tips that I gave her.

Today, Text Messages Are Like The Old Phone Calls In The Middle Of The Night: It used to be that wives caught on to a husband's affair through things like lipstick on his collar or the smell of perfume. Today, technology has taken the place of those things. Cell phones are the most common way that most cheaters are caught so it was certainly understandable that the wife was suspicious and upset. It would be very naive of her to take her husband's word as truth, especially since she had seen other weird behaviors on his part.

Even Deleted Text Messages Have A Story To Tell: People will often try to delete their texts without realizing that they are never really and truly gone. There is software and programs that can bring them back in their complete totality. And, all you really need is the number from that text and you can find out who this person is and then dig a little deeper to see if there is any connection between your husband and this woman. (Many women will recognize the name of the other woman when they complete this step.)

Also, if he's sending texts back and forth, then it's quite possible that he is also IMing, emailing, and communicating via chat rooms or Facebook. All of these things can be easily checked out. The more evidence you find, the harder it is going to be for him to continue to deny that he's cheating.

Deciding When To Give Him The Benefit Of The Doubt And When To Dig Deeper: To be fair, I suppose it is possible that this husband got a text message that was meant for someone else. Usually though, when this is the case, the wife's alarm bells don't start ringing. Often, you will have to try to ask yourself to be objective and observant about the other behaviors or patterns that you've been seeing. If this is the first time that this has happened and he hasn't shown any other troubling behaviors, then his assertions become more believable.

You will usually have some intuition that is whispering to you that there is something more going on or that this is all completely innocent. And, if you aren't sure which is real and correct, it is really easy enough to dig deeper without him even knowing that you are doing so.

I was in this same situation, but I tried to confront him before I had proof, and of course he denied everything. I decided that I really wanted to know the truth, no matter what that truth was. I learned how to get concrete information and proof that my husband thought that he had hid and erased. Once I presented this to him, he had no choice but to come clean. You can read a very personal story at http://catch-the-cheating.com/

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